Stop Your Divorce with Marriage Counseling
Marriage counselors do not have to be seen as merely a final attempt at saving a troubled marriage. Most of the time however, that is exactly what they become. This is truly unfortunate, because marriage counselors can be a lot more effective earlier in the marriage. (“christianmarriage-wWCn”)
It is often the case that by the time the married couple decides to seek professional help, they have so much resentment built up to such a prominent level that their issues are much more difficult to resolve if not impossible. (“Christian Counsiling Marriage”)
A lot of the time, married couples will cringe at the idea of marriage counseling because they feel that it is an admission of failure. (“christianmarriage-wWCn”)
This is a deeply ingrained socio-cultural value that is also an extremely pointless one. For a couple to be able to admit that a marriage has problems becomes paramount to declaring the marriage a potential success later. (“Christian Counsiling Marriage”)
This is not only sad but foolish, for many marriages that end in divorce may have been saved if for no other reason by basic marital counseling.
Since most of the couples that end in divorce have never tried marriage counseling, however, they will never know the answer for sure. “It will always be a question in their minds which leads to many what ifs.” (“christianmarriage-wWCn”)
Marriage Counseling: Are You Denying the Need?
Marriage counseling is taboo for many people. It is simply something that is only done by people that have problems. You do not want to admit that there is a reason that your marriage is struggling.
Even more people refuse to believe that there are any reasons that their marriage could need counseling when it is falling to pieces around them. The fact is that marriage counseling is a good thing, which is beneficial from day one to both of you.
It does not take sides, even if she chooses the therapist. Most importantly, it can bring a sense of peace back to your lives again.
What’s Happening in Your Life Now
When you got married, you had goals and dreams. During your life, though, things have changed those goals. You have become someone that is struggling with feelings. You may be angry, worried or feel stress every day. If you used to come home and feel good about being there, but now spend more time at work or out on the town instead, that could be a sign that there is something else happening underneath it all. For those that are not feeling welcomed or happy at their own home, there is no doubt that there is a need for marriage counseling.
Sometimes, relationships go through changes. Your life changes: children change everything in your life. Finances change and cause many worries and problems with them. Illness, behaviors and much more all cause strife in a relationship and when that is not taken into consideration and dealt with, the result is hurt feelings, angry, arguments and even pain and depression.
If a problem is not dealt with and just pushed away from the time being, the result is that the relationship will simply worsen, increasingly over time.
Soon, the small argument is a large screaming match between the two of you. Sometimes it can even trigger depression in people. What is worse is that these types of relationships cause problems for everyone in the family, even your children.
When you determine that there are problems in your life, realize that you will benefit from the right marriage counselor. In many cases, marriage counseling helps you to improve your life from the trivial things to the large, important things.
Best Wishes, Coyalita
Behavioral Health Rehab Specialist
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