The Transition and New Circumstance

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The Transition and New Circumstance

“The transition and new circumstance – journeying down the path of the single parent.

You are also growing and changing throughout this process. You will realize it, your kids will know and see it, as will others. (“Book Parenting Guide [PDF] Download – soparlosports.com”) This is another change you and everyone around you must deal with as well, on top of everything else. (“Book Single Parentings Guide [PDF] Download”)

You might also feel anxious, lonely, and angry or evoke these emotions in your child/family. Again, this is quite normal and natural behavior. (“Single Parenting’s Guide A Single … – FREEBIESAVE.ORG”)

“Seeing things from the child’s point of view

This is not only all about you either. Try and see things thought the eyes of your child sometime and whole new worlds of understanding and possibilities will open for you. (“Single Parenting – Becoming the Best Parent for Your Child!”)

“A new path and survival plan for single parents – rewards and challenges

We have spoken a lot in theory about what happens to you when faced with these situations. Now we get to the more practical WHAT DO I DO NOW, NEXT, IN MY CASE TYPE OF QUESTIONS? (“Single Parenting – Becoming the Best Parent for Your Child!”)

“SETTLING IN AS INDIVIDUALS AND A NEW FAMILY UNIT

Challenges:

There are so many, that it is possible to write one whole book on this topic alone. (“Single Parenting’s Guide a Single Parent’s Guide To …”) We are opting to take a little less ‘negative’ approach to this. Focusing on the process and outcome than the surrounding, complexities and factors, uphill battles, and obstacles some and all of us might specifically face. (“Single Parenting’s Guide a Single … – FREEBIESAVE.ORG”) Here are some examples:

Getting everything done, on time, being where you need to be, do what you must do and stay sane through it all. (“Single Parenting’s Guide a Single … – FREEBIESAVE.ORG”)

Finding the financial means (food, boarding/housing, transportation, food, clothing and providing necessities of life, safe place to stay, live and play) Baby-sitting and daycare, employment and income, support, and other family-related challenges. (“Blogger – Find Ebooks for You Need”)

Emotionally supporting your kids, while and despite your world crumpling before your eyes. Being and providing the stability although you do not feel you can or have it in you. (“Single Parenting – Becoming the Best Parent for Your Child!”)

Coping with loss and change and the new roles and responsibilities of being a sole custodian and major caregiver, provider, and head of the family.

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Rewards: Life does go on! You can do it!

“Together with your kids you are embarking on reclaiming and building your life together.” (“Single Parenting – Becoming the Best Parent for Your Child!”) You are embracing your future with a cheerful outlook, hope and a plan of action.

Renewed connection, deepening love and caring relationship with your kid

Organizing

Challenges: Tension, stress, harsh words, conflict, fights, arguments, quality of family life together, cooperation, emotions that are rampant and patience wearing thin, upset at the smallest little thing. (“Single Parenting’s Guide A Single … – FREEBIESAVE.ORG”) Lack of focus and direction.

“Rewards: How you as a family can bond together and work through things, caring and supporting each other, even when the going gets tough, making the bonds and connections even stronger than before.” (“Single Parenting – Tips on Family Organization & Communication”) Talking about things that are hard and how you are coping can be a revelation, sharing perspectives and solutions very empowering! Providing stability, order, schedule, routine, and a firm foundation amidst uncertainty is a huge responsibility BUT also an immense opportunity to reconnect with each other. (“Single Parenting – Tips on Family Organization & Communication”)

Getting, staying, and keeping everyone else on track and organized, fed, clothed, taken care of, on time, where they need to be, when they need to be, in clean clothes and staying sane in the process can be quite the challenge for any single parent. “The reward is that is provides you with the opportunity to inspire, engage and mobilize your kids into and in your family unit.” (“Single Parenting – Tips on Family Organization & Communication”)

“They take part in building and shaping their own happiness, family life and future.” (“Single Parenting’s Guide a Single … – FREEBIESAVE.ORG”) That is the great reward. A fresh start and beginning, possibilities and potential. Keep focusing on the positive as opposed to dwelling in and upon the past. It is of extreme importance that anyone and everyone stay connected, have a voice, speak up, communicate clearly, and check in with each other regularly. (“Single Parenting – Tips on Family Organization & Communication”)

This is the perfect opportunity to help starting the healing process, strengthening the bonds and connections between parents and kids, individually and collectively as a family unit.” (“Single Parenting’s Guide a Single … – FREEBIESAVE.ORG”)

You are the authority and disciplinarian in the family unit. Demand and earn respect, trust, and honesty. Be fair, open, and consistent. Do not over-react and set some rules that you all can live with in this new situation. (“Single Parenting – Tips on Family Organization & Communication”) “Organizing and customizing your lives the way you want it.” (“Single Parenting’s Guide a Single … – FREEBIESAVE.ORG”) Who gets to do what, when? Which sports and after-school activities, weekends and hobbies and more can be discussed and decided together. The sole parent, guardian and champion of course has the final say and input. (“Single Parenting – Becoming the Best Parent for Your Child!”)

Do everything in your power to foster your children’s uniqueness and personality. Everyone has something that makes them unique NEVER FORGET THAT. Encourage their self-sufficiency and independence. (“Single Parenting – Tips on Family Organization & Communication”) Let them do chores around the house, take control of their lives, and stop acting like victims, try and play guilt-games or manipulate, disobey, rebel, or act out. Teach them to respect you, each other, and others always.

How does your family (new) handle conflict, stress, and crisis? (“Single Parenting – Becoming the Best Parent for Your Child!”)

Are there verbal arguments in the household? Can you still love and care for each other, despite the difficulty and or words that you are having? How do you stay grounded and connected with each other? Are there opportunities for the family and you and the kids, one-on-one to discuss how they feel, what they want, concerns, disagreements? (“Single Parenting – Tips on Family Organization & Communication”)

Best Wishes, Coyalita

Behavioral Health Rehabilitative Specialist

See Tomorrow: “New Family Unit”

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